
I recently read on one of the wonderfully wise Anna Mather’s posts about mother’s finding themselves.
After the fog of the newborn years, through the battles of the early years to as we slowly transition into the primary school years.
The change in routine for both you and the kids.
The change in priorties.
The change in who we all are now. In this moment in time.
And how we don’t go back.
Like the kids, we too grow.
We evolve.
And the mental battle of who am I?
What was I like before kids?
What do I like doing now?
As little pockets of time slowly creep back that we can call our own.
Without guilt.
Using those little pockets of times.
To go for a walk/run/to the gym. Meet a friend for coffee or read a couple of pages in a book. Doing something just for us.
Amidst the spinning plates of work, school runs and life admin.
We change.
Our experiences shape our character.
And we may find solace and interest in things now that we woudn’t have before kids.
It’s trying to do little things in the day that recharge you.
Light up your soul.
Not putting things off until the kids are older or (eventually) leave home.
Things do seem crazy right now. But switch off from the outside noise. Concentrate on your inner world and what you can control.
And create days that you’re living, not days where you’re existing.
A ten minute walk around the block works wonders.
Making contact with a family member or friend, even if it’s just a quick text, creates that social connection buzz of dopamine.
Reading or listening to a podcast while you have lunch provides support in organising (and reorganising) your brain.
Those little pockets of time will not only help you recharge.
They’ll also help you find out who you are. For this moment.
Love Missuswolf xx